Monday, November 14, 2011

ADHD Kids in Public or Private School

It appears that children with ADHD have quite a rough time if they are educated at school. 

Many of these children are put on harmful drugs, shoved into a school and expected to make it happen. Sadly, the characteristics of ADHD hinder many of these children in their attempts to become educated. Children with ADHD need special attention and do not need drugs that cause all sorts of problems for them.

Children with ADHD like to work at their own pace and this is problematic in a classroom full of children who do not have ADHD. 

It can be quite frustrating for the children, and it will most often affect the quality of their work. Many children with ADHD suffer with a condition known as Auditory integration Syndrome. This is when noises irritates the children to the point where they  are unable to be in the same room where the noise is. Even typing on a computer keyboard can drive these children nuts. With these types of challenges, it is no wonder that many of these children struggle at school and need to be heavily medicated.

Many parents are realizing that a different approach is required if their children are to succeed at school and go onto to live healthy and productive adult lives. 

The best way to do this is to remove the children from school and take them off of the drugs. Research was done a group of ADHD children, and it was found that most of the children who were removed from school and taken off medication improved significantly.

Some parents have reported that their children have been pulled out of class because of their disruptive behavior. 

The behavior is due to the medication. Parents do not know how to deal with this and some parents eventually end up taking anti-depressants themselves simply to deal with this problem. It is at this stage that parents realize that they need to take some drastic action.

The best thing to do is pull the children out of school and start homeschooling them. This way, the children will get the attention that they need. The children will have less distractions and therefore achieve higher grades.

In terms of medication, there is irrefutable proof that this medication is harmful to the children. 

Many teenagers have reported hallucinations while on the treatment. The frightening thing is that they are only able to articulate this once they have come off the treatment.

It is important to realize that ADHD children will need something to help them focus and to keep them relaxed. Thankfully, there are products such as calm down naturally to help ADHD children to cope at school and play more efficiently. This product is natural and safe for everyone and really delivers results. If you love your children, then make a plan to get them out of school and onto a natural alternative.

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Recognizing Asperger's in Young Children

Identifying  Asperger's Symptoms in Children - by Wade Balsdon

Parents are able to identify Aperger's by noticing certain Asperger's symptoms in children. It can be somewhat tricky though as two children may display different signs of the condition. The best way to describe this condition is by thinking of it as autism for clever children.

There are a number of tell-tale signs of Asperger's symptoms in children

Many children with Asperger's have retarded motor development. These children will take longer than other children  to learn to catch or kick a ball and ride a bicycle. Similarly, they will take longer to eat with a spoon or a fork. They love to talk about certain subjects, and many of the conversations are one way. They also become preoccupied with specified topics and pay attention to specific detail regarding the specific topic.

Asperger's symptoms in children are obvious by the way that they speak

Children with Asperger's use different words in their vocabulary than other children do. Instead of "calling" someone, they  "beckon" a person. And while other people "come back", Asperger's children will "return." They are not big on making eye contact and their speech is often somewhat flat lacking pitch, accent and tone. These kids do not grasp jokes as easily as other kids do, and they are not the world's best joke tellers themselves.

Lack of empathy and poor social cues are two other Asperger's symptoms in children

These kids are not the most empathetic little tykes whom you will encounter. They do not know how to read body language and will often interrupt other children who are speaking. Maintaining conversation is a struggle for them as is starting a conversation for these children. They are really stuck in their ways and resist change like the plague.

Do not confuse Asperger's Symptoms in Children

While it might appear that these children are slower than other children, nothing could be further from the truth. These children are intelligent and just need to be dealt with in a different way. They need and deserve love like other children do. Find out all that you can about the condition and yours and your child’s lives will be wholesome and complete.

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Saturday, September 10, 2011

*GIVEAWAY!* - Anti-lice Kit

I recently came across Reitser Pharmaceuticals' Pure Cream (Like them on Facebook here). If you know me at all, you will know that I always complain about dry skin. I simply had to try the cream for myself!

Yesterday I received a hamper in the mail containing some of the great products in the Reitser range, including the Pure Cream, Pure Shampoo and an Anti-Lice kit to review and give away on my site!

I tried the cream and it's amazing. Although it deeply moisturizes, it absorbs completely, leaving your skin soft and supple. It is fragrance and color free and as the rest of the range, it contains only the purest of ingredients. 

My husband has a dry and itchy scalp, which is why I told him to try the Pure Shampoo with Urea. This is what the site says about it: " Pure Shampoo with Urea 5.5% is free of: Parabens, SLES, SLS, CDE, Colourants and Fragrance. This is the exact same formula as the Pure Shampoo Every Day except it has 5.5% of synthetic Urea added to it. This is aimed at consumers that suffer from very dry scalp. The Urea is present because Urea is water loving. It binds the water to the skin and increases the hydration levels of the skin." After using the shampoo just once, his scalp is not as dry and itchy. 

I would definitely recommend the products to my readers and to thank you all for your loyal support and give you an opportunity to try it, I'm giving away a whole Reitzer kit which includes a 4-in-1 Anti-lice kit, Pure Cream, Pure Soap and Pure Shampoo. 

Here's what you have to do to stand a chance of winning:

* If you have a blog, mention this contest on your blog and leave a comment below to tell us about it.

*  If you don't have a blog, then mention it on Facebook. Let your friends tell us that they heard about us from you!

On Monday 19 September we will announce the winner!

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Thursday, July 21, 2011

How do you feel about the 5 people closest to your child?

At one point in our lives, we are all susceptible to influences from other people. Kids with ADHD are often more easily influenced by others, which can be very frustrating.

The late Jim Rohn said that each of us is the sum of the five people closest to us.

During the early years of a child's life the foundation is laid for the rest of their lives. During this time, the child's personality is formed and his or her outlook on life is established.

Think about the influences of the five people your child spends the most time with. Parents, siblings, grandparents, teachers and friends are all part of most children's circle of influence. Sometimes, those people don't all contribute positively to the child's personality and behavior.

This is one of the reasons why many parents decide to home educate their children. I remember when my kids   went to pre-school years ago. When we enrolled them, the school was great, however, the management took over and new teachers were introduced. My children's new teacher was unqualified and English was not her first language. Before long, my daughter started speaking in a peculiar accent and she used incorrect grammar and non-English words. She was shocked when we told her those words were not English.

About 6 months later,  my son's arm was broken by other kids while he was sleeping (during nap time). The teachers never bothered to phone us and the broken arm was only discovered when we collected the kids late in the afternoon. At that point, the teachers were very concerned about fixing the problem, which should have been prevented to start with. We took the kids out of the school then and started homeschooling.

It took a long time to get the kids to speak proper English and changing some of the mannerisms they developed that were frowned upon by most family and friends. Let me tell you, these things sneak up on you before you know it.

Think about the characteristics that you would like your child to develop:  trustworthiness, self-reliance, self-respect, a positive outlook on life, resilience, solution mindedness, optimism, etc.

Now think about the characteristics of their friends. Do you really think that whiney little girl doesn't have an influence on your daughter? Just wait until she doesn't get her way. Does the bully teach your son to play rough and not to be a wimp? Observe your son around younger kids.

What about the aunt with the colorful love life? I bet your daughter adores visiting her and looking at all her coquettish clothing - even playing dress up.

I know I am being hard and I know the home schooling critics will have a field day about my "controlling" my kids. The truth is that kids are easily influenced and we should be wary about who they spend a lot of time with. I am not saying they should necessarily be kept away from people who are not the best of influences, but their time with them should be limited.

My kids have friends that are brats (screaming and throwing tantrums when they don't get their way), bullies (even bullying my kids) and raised in a very different way to my kids, in terms of age appropriate behavior, but they are managing themselves well for the most part.

When a certain behavior rears its head, we will quickly determine the cause and then replace that influence with a better role model. After a day or two during which they had limited interaction with the "wrong" influence, we will ask them how they feel about the situation and they will most often say that they prefer spending more time with someone with a better influence.

The reason is that it feels good when a person has a good influence on you - just think about it!

Of course children prefer spending time with someone brings out the best in them!
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Friday, July 8, 2011

Preserving Your Brain Function

While this is more aimed at adult ADHDers, the tips will certainly prove helpful when practiced around kids too. Written by Wade.

Most of us want to have better brain functioning and yet so many of us are quick to abuse our brains by smoking or drinking. Whether we believe it or not, these substances certainly have an adverse effect on our minds and IQs.

While many people will relay that they get a rush when they smoke, the reality is that over time, smoking kills brain cells. Studies have revealed that both smoking and alcohol have dire effects on IQs. It was further discovered that long-term smoking certainly reduces brain power in humans. People who combine these two habits to the point of abuse, show that their brain cells deteriorate even more rapidly and that functions such as IQ, memory and the ability to problem-solve, is severely hampered.

Smoking is responsible for the reduction of mental functioning in subjects researched. While tobacco and alcohol are dangerous for mental health there are apparently other substances that we might not always be aware of that affect our cognitive abilities. Some of these include artificial sweeteners and certain food colorants. 

This applies especially in cases where large quantities of these substances are consumed. Children are often the recipients of food colorants and flavorings and parents should therefore try to limit this for their children. Hydrogenated oils, sodas and white bread should be restricted as they contain these substances.

Hydrogenated oils clog the arteries and this leads to heart disease; they also slow the process of oxygen being transported to the brain. Sweeteners cause sugar levels to rise and fall and this can cause fuzziness in the brain and even diabetes. This applies to sugar as well, and therefore both substances should be avoided. 

Thankfully, the damaging effects on the brain can be reversed by stopping these habits. In today's times, with competition being so tough, it is important that we look after our brains and more importantly that we send the right message to our kids so that they have the best possible shot at their lives as adults.

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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Email from an Angel

I just got this email in my inbox. It was from the most beautiful angel alive.

Mommy I wish I could put this in grown up words,
so you would really understand how much you mean to me.
I know I’m just a little girl right now 
and I don’t know all the things you need.I wish I could pick you up and hold you like you do when I’m hurt or feeling sad‘Cause I know sometimes it’s hard for you to punish me, when I’ve been bad.I wish I could give you all the things we need and I wish I could go to work for you so you could stay home and play, and do the things you like to do.Mommy I love you, and I’m so proud too and wish that all the little kids in the world have could a mommy just like youand I want you to know you the best.

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Self-management - a possible solution to behavioral issues

Most  children with autistism struggle with self-discipline. Parents have to deal with inappropriate outbursts and potentially dangerous behaviors, such as aggression towards others or self-harm.

Self-management can be a great tool for parents to manage this type of behavior. You probably think I am crazy for suggesting that the child self-manages, but let me explain.

The feeling of being controlled is often a big problem for children with autism. Self-management during certain routine times, such as during school or during therapy, will help the child to carry through this self-management into other areas of his or her life.

The key to successful self-management is to create a system whereby program whereby the child monitors his or her own activities or behavior. This can start with short amounts of time, such as 10 minutes at a time and as a parent you will continue to monitor your child from a passive standpoint. Remind him or her ever so often that he or she is in charge and responsible for his or her own behavior and actions.

Self-evaluation is the objective of this exercise. When he or she has more control, behavior becomes a more important consideration.

Set clear goals and enquire frequently as to how it is going. For instance, if the goal is a day with no aggression, you can check every 15 minutes to see how he or she is doing. If the goal is not achieved, it is possible that he or she is not yet ready for self-management, or it could be that the goal is too unattainable.

The goals should be easy to reach initially and gradually increased. When a child is successful at self-management, a beter attitude towards good behavior will be developed.

A rewards system works beautifully with self-management. Let him or her choose the reward. Explain the rewards and the behavior goals clearly to your child.  By reinforcing good self-management, the child will feel more in control of the self-management process. Choose simple rewards to start, such as stars of dots or happy  faces for every goal that he or she has met, and work up towards a larger goal, such as a new toy or a special activity  when a certain amount of credits has been attained.

As with everything else, self-management programs do not develop overnight, so you and your child will have to ensure that you take your time to devote enough time the a self-management experience.

Reinforcment of good behavior and rewards, as chosen by him or her instead of by a parent,  will strengthen the likelihood of the child carrying this on even when he or she is no longer participating in the program. A chore chart might be handy too.

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Monday, June 20, 2011

Is my child really tired or just lazy?

My children seem to have an endless supply of energy - it would seem to be enough for all the people in my suburb! (Except for my wife and I, that is...)

At night time after a particularly active day, they are likely to fall asleep early and wake up the next day refreshed and rearing to go. Kids should generally be full of energy, unless they are sick or have a physical or psychological condition.

If your child often becomes unduly fatigued for no apparent reason, you should read this as a warning sign that something might be wrong. Many reasons can cause fatigue in kids, but it is important to rule out any serious problems.

Kids with ADHD often need less sleep. Tweens can usually get by on 9 hours a night.

Just as stress can keep adults awake, kids may experience sleep induced anxiety. A calming bed time routine can help ease this anxiety.

A range of other sleep disorders exist and it is best to have it diagnosed properly by a qualified physician. Treatments are often natural and drugs will usually be avoided in most cases.

If you are aware that your child is stressed due to exams or other issues, it may be an idea to buy a liquid magnesium supplement. A magnesium oil massage will do wonders to getting a weary child to sleep after a physically and mentally exhausting day.

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Thursday, June 16, 2011

ADHD is a neurological disorder and quite "normal"

As parents we sometimes struggle to concede that our children have a neurological disorder

As parents we all have a difficult time acknowledging that there is anything "wrong" with our children. When kids misbehave it is easy to blame excessive sugar intake, peer pressure or any other more harmless reason for the child's behavior. Very few parents will entertain the idea that there could be something pathologically wrong with their child.

Children who have a neurological disorder are not in anyway abnormal - they merely have a condition that needs to be managed effectively.
Children who have autism have a chemical imbalance, very much like insulin dependent children have an endocrinology problem.
As parents we do not treat insulin dependent children as though they are naughty, so we should not treat children who have a neurological disorder any differently.
I don't mean that we should wrap them in cotton wool and blame the condition for every misdemeanor, but merely that we should tread the fine line between behavior caused by the condition and behavior caused by a momentary lapse from better training.

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Tuesday, June 14, 2011

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As mothers, we tend to always look out for our kids and our husbands and neglect ourselves. This stress manifests in a number of ways, both physical and psychological. When we are tired, stress, experience digestive and other problems, we are less able to look after those we love.

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Thursday, June 9, 2011

A full day of spur-of-the-moment learning

Today was such a great day for us as a family. We did nothing spectacular, but it was awesome...

After breakfast, we gathered around for our daily gratitude session. At this time we all say what we are grateful for and get into a spirit of gratitude which sets the tone for a day of positive events. We were blown away by the things the kids were grateful for.

The conversation migrated onto our daily affirmations:

1) I am self-reliant and responsible   
2) I am enthusiastic and irresistibly optimistic   
3) I am diligent and hardworking   
4) I am enjoying every moment of my life as a journey
towards becoming my best self
5) I am healthy and energetic   
6) I am fun, playful and I love making people laugh   
7) I am persuasive and a person of positive influence   
8) I am decisive and have a clear understanding of
what's important to me
9) I am full of unstoppable confidence and certainty  
10)I am creative, innovative and have a limitless source
of ideas

This is a new thing that we have just started with and we decided to explain the meaning of each affirmation to the kids. We were on the second affirmation when an email came through from a client, wanting a particularly large order. YAY! However, we ha plans for the day and so I had to quickly do the invoice while Dad continued to explain the affirmations. However, Debbie was distracted and started interrupting.

It is amazing how we think that the kids don't listen to what goes on around them, while they know everyone. I was reminded of this fact when Debbie started asking me questions about my clients. She wanted to know when last Belle ordered and Ellen and Kai and Neil and all of the others. Then she started asking how far we are with Tilly's work and how far I am with my new website and when last I did a blog post. And I thought that I had no boss...

The kids wanted to know what the difference was between an invoice and a payment notice and so we went on to discuss tax and other business related issues.

They caught up on some math while I cleaned the house. I was happy to know that they remembered a literacy class from earlier in the week when they excitedly told me that "Sally sells sea shells on the sea shore" is an example of alliteration. After school, we decided to go for a walk on the beach.

We walked all the way to the mall, taking photos and having a blast. The kids were making intelligent conversation, laughing and running wild and acting lovable towards one another. That was special.

I wanted to donate blood, but my Hemoglobin levels were too low, for the 4th time this year. However, my altruistic hubby decided to go too and that resulted in yet another educational opportunity. They wanted to know why we should answer all the questions on the questionnaire. Blood groups were another topic of interest - and of course the cookies and juice!  

At the supermarket and greengrocer we discussed prices per weight and learned how to tell whether something is of value based on the per weight price.

On our way back we stopped at KFC for an ice-cream and I taught the kids not to touch anything in there - accuse me of OCD, but that place creeps me out. The tables are oily and grimy and I just don't like it. Yet 
another lesson in hygiene.

Strolling back we discussed social welfare and the country's economy. 

At dinner, everyone was happy and accomplished as a result of a productive and enjoyable day. Debbie even     asked whether she "may interject" before...interjecting!

All in a day's work for a homeschooling family.

I am going to bed a happy mommy...

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Don't feel bad for disciplining ADHD kids

I'm always in two about where the ADHD stops and naughtiness starts.

See, with the biomedical treatment, most of my daughter's symptoms are under control. She is paying SUPER attention at school and she is more helpful around the house, etc. However, we have the occasional auditory integration issue...or is it?

Let me explain.

Debbie loves rock music. The louder, the better. She also loves to run around screaming and giggling and she seems unable to hear me tell her to brush teeth, unless I scream at her. This means that noise can't really be getting to her so badly. I mean - when you listen to some rock songs, there are irritating pitches that should be getting to her as they do to me.

However, I was making milk tart the other night while she was playing on the computer and the boys were reading on my bed. Usually, the sound of typing really gets to her (it is not right now, and she's nearly sitting on my lap). The sound of chewing gets to her too - after she has wolfed down her own food and we are chewing and she wants to leave the table, thinking she can go on the computer (which is not going to happen).

You're probably wondering why I am making a big deal of it. Well, it's not the fact that these sounds bother her, it is the behavior that results from the supposed "auditory integration" issue. She would start rubbing her feet together hard while squirming in her seat with a pained look on her face and whimpering noises. Tell her to stop it and she will jump up, storm to the room and slam the door.

Twice in the last week, she ran to her room and opened the windows (that were closed due to cold weather) and sobbed like a 3-year old (just at 9 year old decibels) so that the neighbors could hear her and feel sorry for her. That resulted in a nice early night for her.

The next day she was a little darling, until evening time when I was busy with the milk tart filling. I was stirring the thick, milky blend gently with a whisk to avoid lumps when the squirming started. (reread previous two paragraphs, as I am too lazy to retype) and that resulted in her going to bed without milk tart. I will not tolerate brat-behavior.

She got a good lecture on what will happen when the neighbors do start feeling sorry for her. That's the fun thing about having childless neighbors, they have no clue what it's like living with kids (never mind an ADHD kid).

So after a week of good corrective conditioning, my daughter is a new person. Her moods are over as quick as they start and she is generally more easy to be around. She has been playing with her brother inside (since it was raining) without freaking out about the typing for 2 days.

I tested the whisk-scraping-on-pot theory last night, while I was making custard to go with her jelly and she did not flinch. While I know that SID can fluctuate, I scraped it so hard that the noise got to me. So with a little corrective conditioning, you can help your ADHD child handle his or her symptoms better.

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Dietary tips for improving concentration in ADHD kids

Diet in ADHD kids has come under the spotlight recently as links are found with dietary issues and ADHD. Whether or not a child has ADHD, raw foods will improve energy, concentration and good general health. 

As it is, most people are not getting enough adequate nutrition, due to the depletion of our soil due to modern farming practices. Up to 90% of American children are mineral deficient. In my book I have discussed a number of behavioral therapies that are helpful, however, with good nutrition to back it up, those strategies will only be 40% effective.

We can improve our childrens' behaviors, concentration and general wellbeing by understanding their nutritional requirements.

Nutrition is about what we need from our food in order for our bodies to perform its daily functions at optimum levels.  By knowing how to take care of our body through nutrition, we can maintain  high performance levels instead of being unable to because of the low levels.
A Balanced Meal

When eating raw fruits and vegetables, we should try to stay with organic foods due to the amount of pesticides that are usually on the non-organic foods.

When your child eats a meal high in both fats and simple carbohydrates, he or she will become lethargic and develop muddled thinking. Unfortunately, those are the foods kids welcome most. 

Children have about three times as many taste buds as adults. That could explain why they are such fussy eaters.

Carbohydrates may be simple or complex. Simple carbohydrates should be totally eliminated from their diet for kids while complex ones are very beneficial.

Other ways to improve a child’s concentration at school, include providing them with healthy snacks regularly throughout the day, plenty exercise in the fresh air and quality natural supplements, such as Mineralife's products.

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Monday, May 23, 2011

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Sunday, May 15, 2011

Should I tie my ADHD daughter down?

That's something I really (vaguely) consider in moments of weakness - for her own good of course! :-)

Seriously, the impulsiveness is so bad that the poor child has accidents a hundred times a day. She looks like an extremely neglected child with cuts, bruises, bumps and all her clothes are torn.

She's not your average 9-year-old princess in frills and pink bows. She loves denim shorts and t-shirts, she doesn't brush her hair unless I do it. She runs around like a crazy person, falls off of things, breaks things - it's a miracle she has not broken any bones by age 9.

My husband and I have now established that there is a pattern, which we can interrupt to contain her in the moment - but if it happens when she's outside, we have no control. She would come into the home and start buzzing around like a hungry mosquito on steroids - into every cupboard, drawer, under the furniture, switching things on and of... and with every movement, she would get more grumpy. Unless the pattern is interrupted, the buzzing would end with a slammed bedroom door, and animal-like noises resembling the words "I HATE YOU, I HATE YOU!!!!"

There is no slowing her down if this happens outside, until she comes in with torn clothes as outside she's able to run around until a fall stops her. Needless to say, the poor child has very few decent outfits left and torn jeans is a fashion statement.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

I can see now why God made mothers

Those were my Dear Husband's words just now when the kids nearly caused a fire in our bedroom.

After nearly 10 years, my husband finally "got" why I am a nervous wreck all day and too tired to stay awake through a movie at night.

It took a few years for Hubbycakes to realize that when kids are quiet, it usually spells disaster. I am now going to start a fund for a good cause, to get both Wade and Debbie some auditory integration equipment.

See, men don't understand that when you see kids playing with balloons and walking into a bedroom and closing the door already should set off the alarm bells. When you suddenly hear the hair-dryer, you know that a house fire is imminent.

Luckily, I managed to patiently walk the few steps and explain to my daughter in a calm and patient manner that it was dangerous.

Okay - hold your horses. Before you tell me that a 9-year old should know it is dangerous, remember that Debbie has ADHD. That means that 1) she is impulsive and doesn't think before she does and 2) that whatever Mommy has taught her, should be challenged.

Daddy could not stop laughing at my mothers' intuition - when he finally discovered that it is no fallacy. Give the poor guy some grace, he still gets a fright when the doors slam. But we still love him.

Point is that ADHD moms need to develop an even greater sense of intuition, particularly with the Impulsive ones as they can get up to all sorts of no-good.

Luckily the biomedical treatment has helped to improve these issues to a great extent. For some great tips on behavioral treatment, look no further than ADHD Chaos, The Book.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Does your little nerd have Asperger's Syndrome?

As with ADHD, the diagnosis of children with Asperger's Syndrome has increased over the last number of years. Sometimes refered to as "little professors", these children are often highly intelligent and verbal, but they can be obsessive and have poor social skills.

These children are often hypersensitive to certain types of sensory stimuli and they can feel socially isolated as a result of their difficulty to interact. It has been said that these kids can't read social cues, but this is not really the case. They read the cues perfectly, they just don't respond to them appropriately.

Aspergers kids often have advanced vocabularies and are interested in things that are advanced for their age. They are able to memorize facts and tell everyone who will listen about it.

The symptoms, diagnosis and treatment approach in children with high functioning Aspergers is much different to that of children that are approaching classical autism.  The main problem high functioning Asperger's experience, is their lack of social skill and interactions with peers.

My little boy, JR is a loner. He loves playing all alone with his cars or army guys for hours on end. However, he will often let his sister call him away to come play with friends. After about an hour or two, he will come back into the house to play with his toys, because he is "tired" or because the other kids are "mean".  The story will then come out that he responded in a way that offended the other kids and that led them to be mean to him.

He has some off-the-wall ideas and nerdish, clumsy social skills. Don't get me wrong - he is a lovable little boy with great manners, but he will say things that are not appropriate to the discussion or tell the same joke over and over to the same audience until they are irritated and voice it. He will not understand their reaction, as he thinks it's the funniest joke ever and he will crave the initial reaction.

Sadly, when people give their negative feedback, the child will manifest more of the strange behavior, leading to more of a negative reaction, and so the vicious cycle continues.

The child will feel sad and depressed and withdraw socially.

Experts advise using social stories to help kids with this condition to improve their social skills. More on that later.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

ADHD Kids Have Special Needs

I know... this probably goes without saying, but it really has been on my heart for a few days now.

Debbie has been great for most of the last 2-3 weeks, except for the odd temper tantrum like the one she had this morning.

After all the holidays, we returned to school today. Despite falling asleep in front of the television (I know - a big no-no, but it is NOT allowed on school nights) early over the weekend and two easy days, both her and JR were very tired at school today. JR has a bit of a cold, so that could explain his lethargy - but understanding does not take away the frustration.

Our day started off peacefully, which was amazing for a change. When Wade and I got up, the kids were already up, dressed and they had already brushed their teeth and all. Debbie was in a great mood, despite the fact that her seasonal friends had gone and that she won't see them until at least December.

However, attitudes went downhill from our History lesson onwards. Debbie answered some questions, but her mood started deteriorating. When it came to book-time, it was pretty bad. Suddenly she could not remember her times tables and the noises started getting to her.

From tomorrow, we will make formal exercise a daily part of our school day as it boosts oxygen levels and heart rate. It also helps with energy and concentration in the classroom. And tonight will be an EARLY night for all!

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Gluten Free Fried Chicken Recipe | Dianasaur Dishes

Gluten Free (GF) forms a great part of bio-medical treatment for ADHD. Here is an excellent recipe idea for delicious fried chicken which will not have your ADHDer climbing the walls.

Gluten Free Fried Chicken Recipe | Dianasaur Dishes

Medically ignorant school officials traumatize young boy

Another reason why I prefer to homeschool my daughter...

Medically ignorant school officials traumatize young boy

Friday, April 29, 2011

Adjust your child's lifestyle if he or she has ADHD

Many people do not understand that ADHD children have special needs and that it is important to adjust your child's lifestyle if he or she has ADHD. If you are in this situation you will probably do just about anything to curb some of his or her behaviour that is not aligned with the family's values. Raising a child with this condition can be heart breaking as many of the child's impulses are going to leave you very heartsore at best. You will know what I am talking about if you are a parent of such a child.

Adjusting the diet is one area where you can get to work right away. Eating healthily and getting a lot of exercise are two areas that you can work on to help improve the situation. Exercising helps to reduce the negative symptoms of ADHD. Please do keep in mind that these children have many incredible qualities and gifts and are therefore very special in every sense of the word.

By engaging your child in a physical exercise regime, you are going to help her by boosting the serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine levels. All of these SRI's are responsible for controlling focus and attention. Exercise is a much safer and better way to control the SRI's than ritalin is. Ritalin has some terrible long term side effects that you do not want your child to endure.

Your child's mood will be elevated significantly, depression will be reduced, motivation becomes better and stress levels reduce significantly. You will notice that the impulsiveness and hyperactivity will diminish drastically as well. All of these positive changes will help your child to sleep much better. Sleeping well at night is also very good for children who experience ADHD.

Walking 3-4 times per week for 30 minutes will be a great start. Adding any other kind of formal exercise will only improve matters even further. In time you should strive for your child to exercise every day for optimum benefit.

As all children and especially children with ADHD get bored quickly, it is important to find some form of exercise that will be fun for your child. Skateboarding, dancing, karate, judo or gymnastics are the kinds of exercise that should keep your child enthusiastic for a while. Team sports work well as the social element is also very beneficial for these children.

Take your child out to experience nature as it has been proven that this helps to reduce the symptoms of ADHD in both children and adults alike. Trail running and hiking are both an incredible way of getting fit and improving brain function.

Diet helps to improve the mood and energy levels. Many children who experience ADHD do not eat regularly nor do they eat correctly. When they are hungry they will rush in and raid the fridge and gorge on anything that is nearby. For this reason it is important to try and keep only healthy foods and snacks in the house. Regular mealtimes with healthy food are critical if you want sanity to prevail in your home.

Foods that contain omega -3 fatty acids are ideal for ADHD people. You should try to take supplements that have a ratio of 3:1 EPA to DHA. Regular meals with snacks that are spaced three hours apart are also very handy. Give your child a multivitamin tablet that contains magnesium, iron and zinc and also give them foods that contain these minerals. Each meal should contain some protein and complex carbohydrates. This combination will help to keep your child more alert and reduce the hyperactivity.

Getting back to the omega 3's, you can find these in milk products, tuna, salmon and certian fortified eggs. Adding fish oil supplements to this regime will do wonders for your child and the general karma in the house. Sleep is very important and you should ensure that your child gets a good night's rest every night. If he or she is grumpy and sluggish in the mornings then you can take this as sign that he or she is not sleeping well at night. Get your child to bed at the same time every night and avoid caffeine in any form later on in the day. You should not let your child take any daytime naps as this will disrupt the sleep at night.

In conclusion, it is easy to see that making a few subtle changes can do wonders. Stick to your guns and you will see results. Above all, no matter what your child’s behavior is like as a result of the ADHD, remember he or she did not ask to be born, you asked for the child to be born. Give your child all the love that you can coupled with these lifestyle changes.

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Introducing Our New Expert Contributor

I just realized that I could never have done this thing alone.

Much as I love my little angel (yes, she's very good today), her and I would never have survived a month on our own. Her Daddy Dearest has played a huge role in both our survival and retaining some semblance of sanity. Admittedly, there's very little left, but hey, it's better than nothing.

My Crazy Family FLTR: My lil boy JR, my angel Debbie and My Handsome Hubby Wade
So the expert I'm going to introduce to you today, is none other than my Gorgeous, Loving Husband and Super-Daddy to my kids, Wade Balsdon.

Not only will his contributions help us understand the male psyche of the ADHD Dad, but it will also aim to help create an awareness of the condition amongst other dads, many of whom think that it's a make-up condition from moms who want to mollycoddle their kiddies. So ladies, bring on the men in your lives and show them that real men also do ADHD! :-)

Monday, April 25, 2011

Loving a narcissistic ADHD kid

No, I am not going to give you advice today, because I don't actually know how to show love to a child who rejects your love.

See, that's another thing with ADHD children - particularly those that are impulsive. When they are ruled by impulse, they tend to live in the moment. Do something nice for them and they will adore you, until something or someone else comes along. They will chew you and spit you out in a million pieces. Sounds harsh, but that's the reality - impulsive ADHD kids are a bit more narcissistic than most.

I never thought I'd utter the paragraph above. I was disgusted when someone said to me that all kids are narcissistic, because they live for the joy of the moment. And of course kids do live for the moment - that's what childhood is all about. But if your kids are narcissistic (and that person's kids were for sure), leave mine be thankyouverymuch....

Okay, so let me contradict myself. Most kids are NOT narcissistic, they just do what they enjoy, because their natural instinct is telling them that a life of stressing and working hard to pay the bills awaits when they grow up. Remember when your mom said "Be a child for as long as you can"? - well, that's what they are doing. They deserve it. They have no responsibilities and they are enjoying that freedom too for as long as they can. I would do that too if I could.

Living in a resort town, my kids get to meet lots of other kids and they have taken a liking to a specific family. When the Joneses* are here, I don't see my kids. When they are not off to the beach, they are out for milkshakes or playing games at the Joneses house.  I like them - they are nice people, very kind, loving and strict. I want my kids to enjoy every second with them.

However, since the Joneses have a whole football team, it means that my kids can't park off there for the entire 10 days that they are here. My daughter has to come home for meals and to sleep here. With that comes the responsibilities of keeping the home inhabitable and treating the family with some semblance of human dignity - both things that she seems unable to do.

Yes, I'm talking about my lovely little girl who can't give us enough love the rest of the time. The same little girl who does so well at school and helping around the home. And no - it's not just normal kid behavior. My son also loves the Joneses. He wants to go play before he opens his eyes in the morning, but he does his duties, eats his meals in peace and gives him mom a (reluctant, just to keep the peace) kiss and hug before he leaves.

I wonder if it is a wall she builds? Perhaps she wants to cause as much friction as she can before she leaves, so that she doesn't miss us too much while she is out?

For us as parents, it is sad and heartbreaking. We want this little girl to be happy. We want to make her happy, but she doesn't seem to want our love. It's not the Jones kids' influence- they would not dare talk to their parents like that. With other kids she seems able to hold her composure and maintain the balance between home and play.

No matter what it is, we will love her and talk her through this. This too shall pass...

How Minerals Can Combat the Symptoms of ADHD

Today, conditions such as ADHD are being diagnosed at a more frequent rate than ever before. One of the reasons is that in years gone by people were less aware of the condition than they are today. Some parents are a little vague as to how they manage their children who have ADHD. Many of the parents will turn to the nearest drug available simply to calm the children down.

Other parents are starting to realize that this is not the route to take and are now starting to seek healthier alternatives for their children. A good start in this regard would be to address the magnesium intake of the children. In years gone by, people were able to get sufficient amounts of magnesium, however today this has changed.

Children are prone to much more stress today than was the case 50-60 years ago. Peer pressure, pressure to perform well academically and on the sports field is more evident now than ever before.

Children who have ADHD are less able to deal with and manage these stresses than other children are.

Media, music and negative images play a role in causing additional stresses for all children, although ADHD children are affected more by the stresses.

These kinds of stresses causes the body to be drained of magnesium due to the adrenaline release in the body. Magnesium is necessary for the release of adrenaline from the body. As magnesium is helpful in calming people down, children who face these stresses will need to take sufficient amounts of magnesium.

Bad nutrition is also very responsible for robbing people of magnesium and this is especially the case with ADHD children.Processed foods strip the body of magnesium for a couple of reasons. Processed foods contain very little magnesium and are therefore useless in terms of providing magnesium. The other reason is that the food additives and refined sugars that are contained in processed foods cause people to be stressed and this as we know, stress causes the body to be depleted of magnesium.

Parents who have ADHD children should do their best to take processed foods out of their children's diets.

Junk foods are an absolute no go zone for children with ADHD. These children are hyperactive enough without adding to it by giving them foods that will only exacerbate the condition. Parents who make these changes in their children's diets will notice a marked improvement in the behaviour of their ADHD children.

Once the junk food has been replaced with nutritious alternatives the children will be well on their way towards living a much more balanced life with regards to the ADHD.

Magnesium is beneficial in that it helps to calm the mind down. The brain utilizes magnesium to send messages through the nervous system to the various parts of the body. Magnesium is great for the purposes of calming the mind down as well. ADHD children will therefore benefit from this as they are already way too active. ADHD children who are calmer are better able to focus and function on important matters such as school. Serotonin is produced in the body courtesy of magnesium and serotonin is helpful in creating a sense of well being. People who have low levels of serotonin are often found to be depressed, moody or irritable.

When people get sufficient amounts of magnesium in  their bodies, their bodies will relax as well. Magnesium works on the muscle fibers within the body. It is common for people who are magnesium deficient to experience twitches and spasms.

ADHD children can ill afford this added disturbance and this highlights the need for adequate magnesium intake.

Magnesium offers so many other benefits that one could write a book on the benefits of this great mineral.