Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Email from an Angel

I just got this email in my inbox. It was from the most beautiful angel alive.

Mommy I wish I could put this in grown up words,
so you would really understand how much you mean to me.
I know I’m just a little girl right now 
and I don’t know all the things you need.I wish I could pick you up and hold you like you do when I’m hurt or feeling sad‘Cause I know sometimes it’s hard for you to punish me, when I’ve been bad.I wish I could give you all the things we need and I wish I could go to work for you so you could stay home and play, and do the things you like to do.Mommy I love you, and I’m so proud too and wish that all the little kids in the world have could a mommy just like youand I want you to know you the best.

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Self-management - a possible solution to behavioral issues

Most  children with autistism struggle with self-discipline. Parents have to deal with inappropriate outbursts and potentially dangerous behaviors, such as aggression towards others or self-harm.

Self-management can be a great tool for parents to manage this type of behavior. You probably think I am crazy for suggesting that the child self-manages, but let me explain.

The feeling of being controlled is often a big problem for children with autism. Self-management during certain routine times, such as during school or during therapy, will help the child to carry through this self-management into other areas of his or her life.

The key to successful self-management is to create a system whereby program whereby the child monitors his or her own activities or behavior. This can start with short amounts of time, such as 10 minutes at a time and as a parent you will continue to monitor your child from a passive standpoint. Remind him or her ever so often that he or she is in charge and responsible for his or her own behavior and actions.

Self-evaluation is the objective of this exercise. When he or she has more control, behavior becomes a more important consideration.

Set clear goals and enquire frequently as to how it is going. For instance, if the goal is a day with no aggression, you can check every 15 minutes to see how he or she is doing. If the goal is not achieved, it is possible that he or she is not yet ready for self-management, or it could be that the goal is too unattainable.

The goals should be easy to reach initially and gradually increased. When a child is successful at self-management, a beter attitude towards good behavior will be developed.

A rewards system works beautifully with self-management. Let him or her choose the reward. Explain the rewards and the behavior goals clearly to your child.  By reinforcing good self-management, the child will feel more in control of the self-management process. Choose simple rewards to start, such as stars of dots or happy  faces for every goal that he or she has met, and work up towards a larger goal, such as a new toy or a special activity  when a certain amount of credits has been attained.

As with everything else, self-management programs do not develop overnight, so you and your child will have to ensure that you take your time to devote enough time the a self-management experience.

Reinforcment of good behavior and rewards, as chosen by him or her instead of by a parent,  will strengthen the likelihood of the child carrying this on even when he or she is no longer participating in the program. A chore chart might be handy too.

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Monday, June 20, 2011

Is my child really tired or just lazy?

My children seem to have an endless supply of energy - it would seem to be enough for all the people in my suburb! (Except for my wife and I, that is...)

At night time after a particularly active day, they are likely to fall asleep early and wake up the next day refreshed and rearing to go. Kids should generally be full of energy, unless they are sick or have a physical or psychological condition.

If your child often becomes unduly fatigued for no apparent reason, you should read this as a warning sign that something might be wrong. Many reasons can cause fatigue in kids, but it is important to rule out any serious problems.

Kids with ADHD often need less sleep. Tweens can usually get by on 9 hours a night.

Just as stress can keep adults awake, kids may experience sleep induced anxiety. A calming bed time routine can help ease this anxiety.

A range of other sleep disorders exist and it is best to have it diagnosed properly by a qualified physician. Treatments are often natural and drugs will usually be avoided in most cases.

If you are aware that your child is stressed due to exams or other issues, it may be an idea to buy a liquid magnesium supplement. A magnesium oil massage will do wonders to getting a weary child to sleep after a physically and mentally exhausting day.

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Thursday, June 16, 2011

ADHD is a neurological disorder and quite "normal"

As parents we sometimes struggle to concede that our children have a neurological disorder

As parents we all have a difficult time acknowledging that there is anything "wrong" with our children. When kids misbehave it is easy to blame excessive sugar intake, peer pressure or any other more harmless reason for the child's behavior. Very few parents will entertain the idea that there could be something pathologically wrong with their child.

Children who have a neurological disorder are not in anyway abnormal - they merely have a condition that needs to be managed effectively.
Children who have autism have a chemical imbalance, very much like insulin dependent children have an endocrinology problem.
As parents we do not treat insulin dependent children as though they are naughty, so we should not treat children who have a neurological disorder any differently.
I don't mean that we should wrap them in cotton wool and blame the condition for every misdemeanor, but merely that we should tread the fine line between behavior caused by the condition and behavior caused by a momentary lapse from better training.

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Tuesday, June 14, 2011

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As mothers, we tend to always look out for our kids and our husbands and neglect ourselves. This stress manifests in a number of ways, both physical and psychological. When we are tired, stress, experience digestive and other problems, we are less able to look after those we love.

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Thursday, June 9, 2011

A full day of spur-of-the-moment learning

Today was such a great day for us as a family. We did nothing spectacular, but it was awesome...

After breakfast, we gathered around for our daily gratitude session. At this time we all say what we are grateful for and get into a spirit of gratitude which sets the tone for a day of positive events. We were blown away by the things the kids were grateful for.

The conversation migrated onto our daily affirmations:

1) I am self-reliant and responsible   
2) I am enthusiastic and irresistibly optimistic   
3) I am diligent and hardworking   
4) I am enjoying every moment of my life as a journey
towards becoming my best self
5) I am healthy and energetic   
6) I am fun, playful and I love making people laugh   
7) I am persuasive and a person of positive influence   
8) I am decisive and have a clear understanding of
what's important to me
9) I am full of unstoppable confidence and certainty  
10)I am creative, innovative and have a limitless source
of ideas

This is a new thing that we have just started with and we decided to explain the meaning of each affirmation to the kids. We were on the second affirmation when an email came through from a client, wanting a particularly large order. YAY! However, we ha plans for the day and so I had to quickly do the invoice while Dad continued to explain the affirmations. However, Debbie was distracted and started interrupting.

It is amazing how we think that the kids don't listen to what goes on around them, while they know everyone. I was reminded of this fact when Debbie started asking me questions about my clients. She wanted to know when last Belle ordered and Ellen and Kai and Neil and all of the others. Then she started asking how far we are with Tilly's work and how far I am with my new website and when last I did a blog post. And I thought that I had no boss...

The kids wanted to know what the difference was between an invoice and a payment notice and so we went on to discuss tax and other business related issues.

They caught up on some math while I cleaned the house. I was happy to know that they remembered a literacy class from earlier in the week when they excitedly told me that "Sally sells sea shells on the sea shore" is an example of alliteration. After school, we decided to go for a walk on the beach.

We walked all the way to the mall, taking photos and having a blast. The kids were making intelligent conversation, laughing and running wild and acting lovable towards one another. That was special.

I wanted to donate blood, but my Hemoglobin levels were too low, for the 4th time this year. However, my altruistic hubby decided to go too and that resulted in yet another educational opportunity. They wanted to know why we should answer all the questions on the questionnaire. Blood groups were another topic of interest - and of course the cookies and juice!  

At the supermarket and greengrocer we discussed prices per weight and learned how to tell whether something is of value based on the per weight price.

On our way back we stopped at KFC for an ice-cream and I taught the kids not to touch anything in there - accuse me of OCD, but that place creeps me out. The tables are oily and grimy and I just don't like it. Yet 
another lesson in hygiene.

Strolling back we discussed social welfare and the country's economy. 

At dinner, everyone was happy and accomplished as a result of a productive and enjoyable day. Debbie even     asked whether she "may interject" before...interjecting!

All in a day's work for a homeschooling family.

I am going to bed a happy mommy...

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Don't feel bad for disciplining ADHD kids

I'm always in two about where the ADHD stops and naughtiness starts.

See, with the biomedical treatment, most of my daughter's symptoms are under control. She is paying SUPER attention at school and she is more helpful around the house, etc. However, we have the occasional auditory integration issue...or is it?

Let me explain.

Debbie loves rock music. The louder, the better. She also loves to run around screaming and giggling and she seems unable to hear me tell her to brush teeth, unless I scream at her. This means that noise can't really be getting to her so badly. I mean - when you listen to some rock songs, there are irritating pitches that should be getting to her as they do to me.

However, I was making milk tart the other night while she was playing on the computer and the boys were reading on my bed. Usually, the sound of typing really gets to her (it is not right now, and she's nearly sitting on my lap). The sound of chewing gets to her too - after she has wolfed down her own food and we are chewing and she wants to leave the table, thinking she can go on the computer (which is not going to happen).

You're probably wondering why I am making a big deal of it. Well, it's not the fact that these sounds bother her, it is the behavior that results from the supposed "auditory integration" issue. She would start rubbing her feet together hard while squirming in her seat with a pained look on her face and whimpering noises. Tell her to stop it and she will jump up, storm to the room and slam the door.

Twice in the last week, she ran to her room and opened the windows (that were closed due to cold weather) and sobbed like a 3-year old (just at 9 year old decibels) so that the neighbors could hear her and feel sorry for her. That resulted in a nice early night for her.

The next day she was a little darling, until evening time when I was busy with the milk tart filling. I was stirring the thick, milky blend gently with a whisk to avoid lumps when the squirming started. (reread previous two paragraphs, as I am too lazy to retype) and that resulted in her going to bed without milk tart. I will not tolerate brat-behavior.

She got a good lecture on what will happen when the neighbors do start feeling sorry for her. That's the fun thing about having childless neighbors, they have no clue what it's like living with kids (never mind an ADHD kid).

So after a week of good corrective conditioning, my daughter is a new person. Her moods are over as quick as they start and she is generally more easy to be around. She has been playing with her brother inside (since it was raining) without freaking out about the typing for 2 days.

I tested the whisk-scraping-on-pot theory last night, while I was making custard to go with her jelly and she did not flinch. While I know that SID can fluctuate, I scraped it so hard that the noise got to me. So with a little corrective conditioning, you can help your ADHD child handle his or her symptoms better.

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Dietary tips for improving concentration in ADHD kids

Diet in ADHD kids has come under the spotlight recently as links are found with dietary issues and ADHD. Whether or not a child has ADHD, raw foods will improve energy, concentration and good general health. 

As it is, most people are not getting enough adequate nutrition, due to the depletion of our soil due to modern farming practices. Up to 90% of American children are mineral deficient. In my book I have discussed a number of behavioral therapies that are helpful, however, with good nutrition to back it up, those strategies will only be 40% effective.

We can improve our childrens' behaviors, concentration and general wellbeing by understanding their nutritional requirements.

Nutrition is about what we need from our food in order for our bodies to perform its daily functions at optimum levels.  By knowing how to take care of our body through nutrition, we can maintain  high performance levels instead of being unable to because of the low levels.
A Balanced Meal

When eating raw fruits and vegetables, we should try to stay with organic foods due to the amount of pesticides that are usually on the non-organic foods.

When your child eats a meal high in both fats and simple carbohydrates, he or she will become lethargic and develop muddled thinking. Unfortunately, those are the foods kids welcome most. 

Children have about three times as many taste buds as adults. That could explain why they are such fussy eaters.

Carbohydrates may be simple or complex. Simple carbohydrates should be totally eliminated from their diet for kids while complex ones are very beneficial.

Other ways to improve a child’s concentration at school, include providing them with healthy snacks regularly throughout the day, plenty exercise in the fresh air and quality natural supplements, such as Mineralife's products.

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